Calm authority
You can identify an alpha male just by the way he walks. The way he talks. The way he sits. The way he holds himself. His posture. His body language is open and expansive. He takes up as much space as he likes. He might rest an arm on the back of a chair next to him. He might lean back, toss his feet up on the desk and rest his head in his palms, clasped behind his head, with elbows out. He takes big, deliberate steps (as opposed to quick little steps). His movements are slow and deliberate, not quick, jerky, and uncontrolled.
Lesson
Alpha male body language is open and expansive. They take up space. Their movements are slow and deliberate. They speak slowly and deliberately as well—they don’t rush through what they have to say, fearful that someone might interrupt them. Their powerful, steady demeanor conveys calm authority. Now, let’s take a look at the easiest way to develop this irresistible alpha male body language.
Alpha body language
I could go into great detail about the body language of an alpha male. But… there is a more effective way for you to learn alpha body language. And that is to find and emulate a “body language role model.” My recommendation? Daniel Craig’s James Bond or Marlon Brando (especially in films like “The Wild One”). A real-life figure with very sturdy alpha male body language is Vladimir Putin. (You might not like his politics, but that’s beside the point.) Watch some clips from these movies (and Putin) and emulate the way they move, walk, talk, sit, gesture, and so on.
Less is more
“When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinxlike. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.”
I remember once doing some work in a 24-hour space at a university. There were these two girls and a guy (who, incidentally, I’d seen earlier that same day in the gym). He was muscular, tall, had great facial structure, and had all that a guy could hope for in terms of physical attractiveness. Take a look at him and you’d think he’d have no trouble with the ladies.
But, as I was about to find out, he had one major flaw that—in terms of attractiveness, at least—outweighed his naturally handsome features, plus all that hard work he’d apparently been putting in at the gym to build an attractive, muscular physique.
You want to know the problem? He talked too much. And no, not as in he sometimes talked a bit more than necessary. He literally could not stop talking. I don’t know if that’s how he always is or if he was just trying to impress the girls he was with, but boy did he talk.
And, whenever she does reply, they instantly send something back, as though they’ve been sitting right next to their phone the whole day just waiting for her to say something. While you might be like, “Well, yeah, duh! Everybody carries their phone with them these days,” the truth is that it nonetheless seems as if you have nothing better to do with your life. It also eliminates the chance to give her time to let her think about you and wonder what you’re up to.
Last word
In sum, when it comes to communication, less is more. This is not just the cases with communication, but in almost all areas regarding alpha males— including, of course, their understated yet authoritative body language.
